I remember a conversation early on in my marriage. We were having dinner with friends, mid-winter, and I was boasting about how I helped Angel to shovel the stoop and sidewalk after a particularly nasty snowstorm.
As our hostess served coffee and I helped clear the table, she hastily pulled me over to the sink. She asked, in an urgent and somewhat conspiratorial whisper, “Why would you do that? Why on Earth would you HELP him to shovel?” I hesitated, somewhat confused by the question. She continued, “ NEVER show them that you are capable! If he knows that you can shovel the sidewalk, clean the catbox, take out the garbage then he’ll EXPECT you to do that stuff ALL THE TIME!!”
I dismissed the Read More