Career training websites ask “What does your handshake say about you?” The truth is, frankly, I don’t give a damn. I loathe handshakes! I’m like Howie friggin’ Mandel. My handshake says, “I hate handshakes, how about a fist pump, or Awkward Stranger Hug?” Read More
It’s already November isn’t it? My family is already staring at me with their tongues extended to the floor expecting a marvelous Thanksgiving feast and I haven’t saved nearly enough for Christmas sales, or presents for that matter. Everywhere I go some well-meaning doofus asks me if I’m ready for Thanksgiving. They say it with extra emphasis in the middle and a cheerleader’s gleam in their eyes. I guess I take a slight guilty pleasure in Read More
Today I am sad. It’s kind of ridiculous, sort of embarrassing and I feel way too old for this sort of thing but…I’m having a bad hair day! And it’s all because I got a bad haircut. My friends are being supportive, encouraging me with smiles and words: “It looks really healthy,” “It really frames your face,” and “It’ll grow back.” And they’re right. But I am still sad. It is not what I wanted. I asked for a simple trim to my shoulder length bob and I left the salon with a chin length choppy shag, fringy bangs and a brand new charge to my credit card.
I’m also angry. Angry that Read More
In Elle Davis’ post, Monster-In-Laws, she discusses how hurtful her mother-in-law’s passive aggressive ways can be. Have you ever heard the saying “It’s a slap in the face”? Back handed compliments are back handed because someone just “back handed you”.
Has there ever been a time when someone has said something to you and it’s like they are verbally or mentally bludgeoning you? Maybe, it’s not quite that violent…maybe it’s more like a little pinch, a poke, or a dig. These eventually add up to a bludgeon. Trust me! Perhaps, in fact, you would have preferred a smack in the face? I think that we discount the fact that it actually feels physical when someone mentally abuses you. I will identify several scenarios and state the “offense” that I think fits the “crime”.
1. Someone tells you that you’re doing a great job, and 5 minutes later you overhear them telling someone else that you suck. (SLAP IN THE FACE)
2. “Let’s get something straight!” Doesn’t usually result in Read More
“Do you have a boyfriend?”
For single people, this is the dreaded question from people you haven’t seen in a while; your nail tech, your grandmother and pretty much everyone else that you speak to on the planet…
The Straight Shooter asks: “Do you have a boyfriend?”
Respond with a question: “Do you have a boyfriend?”
Sometimes it’s easier to start responding to the question with a question. An eye for an eye! A tooth for a tooth! A boyfriend for a boyfriend!
The Ones Closest (people who know you don’t have a boyfriend, but feel the need to ask anyway) say: “You’re such a great girl. Why do you Read More
I thought that my 3 year-old, the little hummingbird, bypassed the “why?” stage and was becoming overly confident that I would get lucky and be able to avoid that stage. So, of course that means she has embraced the why stage with a wild abandon over the last few months and my brain hurts. Help!
While I’m putting on my bra:
Me: Let me just put on my bra.
Me: Because I have boobs. Read More