In Elle Davis’ post, Monster-In-Laws, she discusses how hurtful her mother-in-law’s passive aggressive ways can be. Have you ever heard the saying “It’s a slap in the face”? Back handed compliments are back handed because someone just “back handed you”.
Has there ever been a time when someone has said something to you and it’s like they are verbally or mentally bludgeoning you? Maybe, it’s not quite that violent…maybe it’s more like a little pinch, a poke, or a dig. These eventually add up to a bludgeon. Trust me! Perhaps, in fact, you would have preferred a smack in the face? I think that we discount the fact that it actually feels physical when someone mentally abuses you. I will identify several scenarios and state the “offense” that I think fits the “crime”.
1. Someone tells you that you’re doing a great job, and 5 minutes later you overhear them telling someone else that you suck. (SLAP IN THE FACE)
2. “Let’s get something straight!” Doesn’t usually result in Read More