Shopping For A Mate on

I need to confess. I’m surfing my profile on I don’t know if it’s allowed, but I don’t care. After selling my place in New York City earlier this year, I’ve become a bit of a vagabond. I don’t know what zip code or city I should put as my Match location. In fact, I was kind of hoping to find my guy and then get inspired to live in whatever city or town or country that he happened to be in! How can I make work for me with this mindset? Well, first of all, I have two accounts. One is based in the Washington D.C. area since my instinct is that’s where it makes the most professional sense for me to be. I also have a close friend monitoring that account for me, since sometimes I think I’m just not cut out for finding love on my own. Maybe my friends know what’s better for me than me… That’s Match account #1.

But I’ve lived my whole life, towing the straight and narrow professionally, living in New York for 18 years and working in finance, while nothing worked out on the relationship front. In fact, I think I went down the negative side of the relationship scale. I want to also make sure I keep room in my life for a little craziness and a little randomness when it comes to matters of the heart. So, I originally pinned Match account #2 to Denver, Colorado. This is simply because I love the type of guy that lives in Colorado – outdoorsy, independent, self-reliant — the guy who in a post-apocalyptic world would know how to make fire, how to forage for food, how to find shelter. Unfortunately, I’m not always in Denver to be able to date there, so I switched my location to northern NJ for the time I’m based here. But the guys who popped up just didn’t flicker with me, even if I ignored the pictures and just read the profiles. Not good. So now I rebased myself to Santa Fe, New Mexico since I’m about to spend a good two weeks out there. And I have to say, a couple of the prospects are not bad… After that I will be chilling on a small, tropical island in Belize and living it up around Notting Hill in London for the entire month of May. Will let me rebase my profile internationally? Hm.

This could be a terrible way to find love, by shopping around the U.S. and even the world. But what I’ve done in the past by anchoring down in one city didn’t work and I really did give it a shot. Why not try something different?? Maybe I’m a little crazy and a little flighty these days when it comes to matters of the heart, but I’m hoping to catch up with the guy who gets that – the guy who gets me. Once that happens, I can let myself be grounded.

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