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Kelli Nelson

Sacrificing Your Mommy-Only Retreat

Several years ago, I finally acquired the bathtub of my dreams. It had been a long time coming. I had to sacrifice square feet in the master bedroom but it was worth it because my tranquil spa-like, mommy-only retreat featuring an amazing tub was far more important. My dream was, of course, before I realized there would be no escape from my kids’ demands—not ever. I’ve been in my magnificent tub maybe a half dozen times. Probably less.

There is good news, though. The tub is now getting the attention it so deserves. Over this past year, my 4 year-old daughter has staked a claim. In the end, I gladly gifted it to her. Here’s why: I have an 18 year-old son and since teen boys are notorious for their scary-teenage-boy-stuff, I’m good with not sitting on the floor in the kids’ very small, shared bathroom each night during bath time.

My daughter and I made an honest effort to use the guest bathroom tub, too. No dice. For some reason and I still don’t know why, it was just too intimidating for her. I reasoned further that if we received an actual guest, it would be unavailable to us anyway. That left just one more option in our home. My dream tub. I carefully weighed the pros and cons. And caved.

Shortly after giving in, I discovered one awesome benefit for me that came along with the transfer of bathtub ownership. I can now enjoy a longer, almost uninterrupted shower. In our new bathing routine, we add bubble bath and a bazillion toys to a small amount of water. I then watch my daughter enjoy her bath from just a few feet away while I enjoy a now more satisfying shower. It’s a win-win. I do lose my mommy-only retreat but I gain time to actually wash my hair. At this point, I’ll take whatever I can get.

For those about to judge, please don’t. I’m not leaving my child unattended in the bath. I can clearly see my little darling just a few feet away as she revels in the pink bubbles and soaks up her time in the big girl tub. Now that is a real Calgon moment. It’s just not mine.

Have you had to sacrifice your own Calgon moments, too?


Kelli Nelson is a writer and single mom living in the Midwest with her two children and their cavalier King Charles spaniel. She advocates for underprivileged children and women’s issues and is an active member of the Global Team of 200. Kelli has been named one of 10 Most Influential Mompreneurs of 2013 by VoiceBoks, The Voice of ...