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Rhona Berens
Rhona Berens

Rhona Berens is a recovering academic who, when asked repeatedly during her 30s if she was a therapist, responded with the only reasonable answer she could think of: "No, but I play one on TV." After realizing there might be a good reason people mistook her for a shrink-- a.k.a., her love of helping others get happy (or happier) and stay happy (or happier)-- she also realized she'd rather spend time helping them navigate the future instead of the past (no offense to past-focused therapists, a number of whom have built mansions on the fees Rhona paid them over the years). Rhona decided to become a Certified Individual and Relationship Coach. She focuses on helping parents achieve and maintain personal and relationship fulfillment after she and her wife had their first child at 40+. As soon as their daughter was out of the womb, she lifted her head, took a good look at each of her moms and said (in a thought-bubble that appeared over her head): "You have no idea what kind of joy and havoc I'm going to wreak!" Rhona's devotion to helping parents only increased with the birth of her son in 2011, though now she has little energy to help anyone, including herself.

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Marriage

How To Stop Your Spouse From Driving You Crazy

Sure, there were things about my wife that gently pressed my buttons when we got together; annoying habits, odd turns of phrase and other minor stuff. Then we had children and what were once mild irritants began to drive me nuts!

I mean, seriously, who brushes her teeth after applying makeup? Doesn’t she know that brushing and rinsing can ruin carefully applied base? Then you have to reapply, whereas if she just reversed the order…. Okay, maybe that is minor.

But whazzup with, “Are you okay?” It was one thing for Read More

Lessons

Blame the Kids. …I Know I Do.

I used to blame my parents. A lot. I blamed them for the things I didn’t like in myself and yearned to change, the things I didn’t possess but desired, the f—ed up relationships I had, but swore I didn’t want. “Parent-blaming” worked really well for me until, one day in my 30s — a day so traumatic I’ve blocked the details from memory — I woke up and realized: I’m too old to blame my parents for what’s screwed up in my life!

Thus began a torturous decade-long journey to self-responsibility Read More