Like all of you, there are so many things I want to teach my young daughter. I want to share mistakes I’ve made in an effort to spare her the same heartaches I endured. But I have a bit of a different take than others on when our girls should know what lies ahead.
In February, our family celebrated my daughter’s 5th birthday. It occurred to me just days before while planning the party that I may already be behind the eight ball. So I’m going to step it up, beginning today.
Most who know us will tell you my daughter is nearly a carbon copy of me—right down to the knocked knees, stubborn but optimistic behavior and the deep, raucous laugh. Me, only brunette.
Here are 5 things I want my daughter to know, right now:
1. You don’t have to be me.
You’re your own person, and I adore your individuality. And I truly love your brunette hair.
2. Love your body now, and always. Understand there is no good or bad, just healthy.
I remember when I was 13, I had already vowed to eat nothing but fruit, and I weighed myself constantly. I grew up believing I needed to be better than who I was. In this case, slimmer. I don’t want that for my daughter.
3. You’re already intelligent.
I make a conscious effort to acknowledge my daughter’s intelligence and passion, before complimenting her appearance. She doesn’t need to be ‘made’ intelligent; she simply needs to absorb life to enhance her God-given intellect.
4. You have the right to be heard. You have the right to be independent.
What more needs to be said here?
5. It’s okay for you to play, to use your imagination, to dream.
I believe happiness and success come from that very place within.
I could go on with this list infinitely, but I’ll stop here with 5 and invite you to share more with us in the comments below.
What do you want your daughters to know, right now?