Over three years ago, I started a new job; one I had dreamed of having for years. On the day my oldest daughter, Ginny, was born, I became a stay-at-home mom. As my job into motherhood began, I was fearful and full of hope. I felt blessed that I would be able to stay at home, since many moms are unable to do so. Luckily, I found that my new “job” suited me. It didn’t frustrate or bore me, most days. (I’m aware that being a stay-at-home doesn’t work well for all women, for a variety of reasons.)
While many perks come with being a stay-at-home mom, it isn’t perfect. Unlike a typical job, there are no breaks during the day to take a minute for yourself, unless you count locking yourself in the bathroom for 5 minutes. (You can’t count on your children taking naps.) Adult conversation is rare, unless you count Facebook or Twitter. Sick days? Nope. They don’t exist. I’ve only had one sick day when I had the stomach flu. My husband took the day off because I lacked the ability to leave my bed other than bathroom runs.
Because being a stay-at-home mom is 24/7/365, I occasionally find myself going a little crazy. While I love my “job” most of the time, I do have moments where I question my choice to stay home.These moments usually occur on the days when both of my little girls have constant meltdowns, and my husband has to work overtime that night.
I’m blessed by a husband who recognizes that I need occasional “me” time; time for me to get out of the house by myself for a few hours. Generally, I escape to the movie theater with a large tub of popcorn and a soda. Afterward, I feel much more refreshed and ready to be at home with my lovely girls.
I figure that I’m not alone. All of us moms need some “me” time. We all have our breaking point where we need to some time to ourselves. Here are a few signs that you just might need a day off:
1. You think about faking an illness that will force your husband to stay home while you hide out in your room.
2. Anytime you hear the word “Mommy” you have a PTSD reaction.
3. You find yourself yelling every other word instead of every other sentence.
4. You’ve created a Pinterest board with places where you hope to escape.
5. Not only that, but you can be found on Expedia, Travelocity or other travel site looking at possible trips you can take.
6. You look forward to filling your tank full of gas because it means you get out of the car and away from the kids for at least 5 minutes.
7. You start going to the gym twice a day; not to workout, but to put the kids in the free day care.
8. You consider taking the kids to the park even when it’s raining.
9. You hide under the covers in the morning with the hopes that your kids won’t notice you.
10. When your children refuse to nap, you break into tears.
11. You count down the minutes until bed time.
12. You decide to make bed time 30 minutes earlier than normal.
13. Instead of a bottle of wine, you are now drinking wine from a box.
14. You found a great delivery service for your wine supply.
15. You’ve started looking at job postings in the local paper.